Friday, January 8, 2010

Book Review - Non-Fiction - The Conversation: how black men and women can build loving, trusting relationships


Title: The Conversation: how black men and women can build loving, trusting relationships
Author: Hill Harper
ISBN: 9781592404759
Genre: Non-Fiction/ Relationships

Hill Harper seems to know exactly what the African –American community needs. His books seem to come at a time when there is a breakdown in the African-American family structure and he hopes his latest book will answer why this may be the case and how we can resolve this situation before it becomes even more dire.

This book is a candid conversation between men and women and to be honest, it speaks to the core and asks those complex questions that we are afraid to ask of one another, which leads to the ultimate breakdown in communication. How do we get past the stereotypes we have of each other (black men vs black women)? We must seek the truth and stop relying on others negative thoughts and ideas and come up with what is true in own on hearts about each other.

I liked this book, because Hill not only provides us with his personal experiences and fears, but he also talks to many friends, colleagues, associates that were married, single, divorced or simply involved to give us real and honest answers, not just something he overheard or read in journals or articles. This information came from the “horse’s mouth” so to speak. I found myself agreeing with some of the negative assumptions about the opposite sex and totaling disagreeing when the other sex talked about women. I guess I somehow accepted the negative things I have heard as truth, but I think I need to reevaluate my assumptions’ and communicate openly about my wants fears and needs.

The Conversation also provides practical ways for you to open the lines of communication, so anyone who reads this book, will at least have a starting point and perhaps we can all come together to start to rebuild what has been on the demise for years, the African American Family.
Great job, Hill.

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